Father’s Day…

So here it is, the eve of Father’s Day 2013.

As I’ve thought about it over the years, and in particular the past handful, I’m left in a state of not really knowing what to think of this day.

You see, I’m the product of this American society, raised in a broken (or as I refer to it, shattered) family.

The very abridged version: Parents divorced when I was 2, moved almost all the way across the country, mom remarried when I was 5. I remember being excited about that–that I’d finally have a dad.  He even shortly thereafter adopted my older sister and me. But that dream quickly evaporated…he was an alcoholic and was increasing violent as the years went on.  I left when I was 13, staying with relatives and then in foster care, and eventually back with my mother after she divorced him.

Fast-forward many years…both of these men passed away. And I learned more about them after their deaths than I ever did when they were alive. And in very positive ways. So this day leaves me conflicted. 

But it also leaves me more resolute than ever to ensure my kids aren’t conflicted like that by ensuring that I am present, involved, active, and most of all, that they know they are loved.

Am I perfect? Nope, not even close. But I am here, with them, loving them, guiding them, and changing the future so that we are no longer in bondage to the proverbial (and spiritual) sins of my fathers.

So on this day, here’s what I’d like to say to you all:

To those who had fathers present and active growing up…cherish them. Honer them.

To those whose fathers weren’t around but who are still alive…it’s never too late to restore that relationship, or even to begin it.

To those, like me, on the outside looking in…resolve today that you will change that for your kids. Step up.

So here it is, the eve of Father’s Day 2013. As I’ve thought about it over the years, and in particular the past handful, I’m left in a state of not really knowing what to think of this day. You see, I’m the product of this American society, raised in a broken (or as I…